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5 Conversation Starters to Have About Jesus Around Communion

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Communion at home in front of the kids is sparking new conversations! And many of our parents aren’t ready for this! :) Can our kids have communion? What do we tell them? We’re here to help! We want to help you to disciple your kids so they can grow to own they faith you model in the home. 

In our church, we believe the Bible teaches that communion is a sacrament for all who believe and follow Jesus. When it comes to our children, we welcome them to communion when they believe in Jesus for themselves. They grow up believing in Jesus because you teach them about Jesus, you teach them to pray, and you teach them the gospel--that God made them to worship, serve, and enjoy Him, that they are sinners, and that God loves them and Jesus died and rose so they would be forgiven and adopted into God’s family. 

We open the Lord’s Table, another name for Communion, to our children when they are able to show that they believe this themselves. Check out more about this over on our Children’s page

If your kids see you having communion during one of our online services and they want to participate themselves, that’s wonderful! This is often the first step toward preparing them to be ready for their first communion. Don’t panic! You can simply tell them,

"Communion is for people who have shared with the leaders in our church that they love Jesus and are following Him. If you’d like to take the bread and the wine/juice, you need to share with the pastor or one of the elders that you believe in Jesus."

They may fuss, but simply repeat gently, “our church understands that communion is for people who can share that they are committed to following Jesus. Are you ready to meet with the elders to share what you believe with them?” 

Again, the information on the Children’s Page goes into depth about this, and offers ways to know if your child is ready to move forward in the process to begin taking communion. As always, please let me know if you have any questions!

One other thing: your home may have adults who don’t believe in Jesus yet. If they ask, I encourage you to share some version of this with them:  Communion is one way that Christians share a symbolic meal with God. In this meal, we are saying that we believe in Jesus and are sorry for our sins. And God is saying that He forgives us and He is with us. You are welcome to join in Communion if you have confessed your sins to God and are committed to following Jesus. Are you ready to do that? If so, you can pray to Jesus and then you can participate in Communion.

And for fun, here are 5 conversation starters to try out during communion with your non-communing family and friends:

  1. Have you taken communion before? What does that mean to you?
  2. Communion is the time when we share a meal with God, reflecting and giving thanks to who Jesus is, and what He did for us by dying on the cross. What do you think it meant when Jesus died for us?
  3. We take bread and wine/juice for communion. Do you know what Jesus told his disciples that this represents? 
  4. Why do you think taking communion is important?
  5. Our church has communion for people who believe in Jesus. Do you know what it means to believe in Jesus and to be one of his sons and daughters?

Can you add to our list of conversation starters? We want to see all of our friends and neighbors talking about Jesus and reflecting on what He has done for us.

Family Song: Before the Throne of God Above

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Ben Parks here, worship leader at Harbor City Church. In January, we sent out a survey to get feedback about our Family Songs. The responses are very helpful—so thank you for taking the time to respond! We were overjoyed to learn that families and individuals have been benefiting from this. The goal of these songs is to (1) equip parents to use the songs we sing to disciple their kids, and (2) help us all meditate more deeply on the words we sing. So, to see that this is actually happening is pretty rad! Let's keep it up!

For the month of February(ish), we will sing Before the Throne of God Above. I chose this hymn because of its rich theology and emphasis on the immovable assurance we have in Christ as our intercessor. This hymn was written in the 1860’s by Charitie Lees Bancroft, the daughter of an Irish minister. This hymn, originally titled “The Advocate,” is perhaps her best-known hymn, and is still sung by many around the world today.

We hope that this song helps you go deeper in your fellowship with the Lord. Below I have included the lyrics, relevant passages of Scripture, a few YouTube links of the hymn, and a short devotional geared for kids (but hopefully helpful for adults too!). We look forward to singing this song with you this month!

In Christ,

Ben Parks
Assistant Worship Leader

Harbor City Church  |  
Before the Throne of God Above
By Charitie Lees Bancroft, 1860s

Sovereign Grace feat. Kristyn Getty
Piano Instrumental
Shane & Shane

Related Scripture: Lyrics:
Before the throne of God above
I have a strong, a perfect plea:
A great High Priest, whose name is Love,
Who ever lives and pleads for me.
My name is graven on his hands,
my name is written on his heart;
I know that while in heaven he stands
no tongue can bid me thence depart.

When Satan tempts me to despair,
and tells me of the guilt within,
upward I look, and see him there
Who made an end of all my sin.
Because the sinless Savior died,
my sinful soul is counted free;
For God, the Just, is satisfied
to look on him and pardon me.

Behold him there, the risen Lamb!
My perfect, spotless Righteousness,
The great unchangeable I AM,
the King of glory and of grace!
One with Himself, I cannot die;
My soul is purchased by his blood;
My life is hid with Christ on high,
with Christ, my Savior and my God.

Kids’ Devotional:
When we've been selfish or mean to someone, the best thing to do is to come to that person and say “I'm sorry,” and, “Please forgive me.” Then the person we hurt can say, “I accept your apology, and I forgive you!”

It's the same with God. When we've been selfish or mean to Him, the best thing to do is to say to Him, “I'm sorry,” and, “Please forgive me.” But since we can't see or hear God, how can we know He accepts our apology and forgives us? How can we know He still loves us?

In the Old Testament of the Bible, the High Priest had a very important job. He was the “bridge” between God and the people of Israel. In order to say, “I'm sorry” and “Please forgive me” to God, people had to make sacrifices. The High Priest would bring these “I'm sorry” and “Please forgive me” sacrifices into God's holy presence, and then tell the people, “God accepts your apology and He forgives you!” But every sacrifice had to be perfect, and every time they were selfish or mean, people had to make another sacrifice. Even the High Priest had to make sacrifices—because sometimes he was selfish and mean, too!

But when God's own Son Jesus came to earth, he was never selfish or mean—He was perfect in every way. Yet He willingly died on the cross as a sacrifice to pay for our sins. After he rose from the dead, Jesus ascended into heaven into God's holy presence, where he is always reminding God of the perfect sacrifice He made on our behalf (Rom. 8:34).

Because of this, Hebrews 4:14 can declare that Jesus is our Great High Priest—He is the best “bridge” we could ever hope for! Because Jesus was perfect, we know His sacrifice is “a strong, a perfect plea,” and “my sinful soul is counted free.”  Because Jesus is God's own Son, we know that God always listens to Him as he “ever lives and pleads for me,” and that “while in heaven He stands, no tongue can bid me thence depart.” Because Jesus conquered sin and death, we know that “my soul is purchased by His blood” and, “One with Himself I cannot die” (spiritually).

God doesn't ever want us to doubt that He accepts our apologies and forgives us and loves us. Because of Jesus, we can have confidence that our names are “graven on His hands” and “written on His heart”—fancy ways of saying that God loves us, no matter what we've done, or how we feel, or what circumstances we face. As Hebrews 4 says, we can “with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

Whenever you sing Before the Throne of God Above, let it fill you with this joyful confidence: that you have full assurance of God's acceptance and love because of your Great High Priest, Jesus Christ.